Saat Paling Tepat Menasihati ???????

Assalamualaikum..

Alhamdulillah, tengahari ni nk share sikit ilmu yg dipetik dari buku Prophetic Parenting; Cara Nabi SAW Mendidik Anak..terima kasih kak Nurrul Hidayah, bg pinjam buku ni.. huhu, sgt terkesan dihati & bersemangat nak didik anak-anak Tuan Syarifah Humaira' & Tuan Ahmad Luqman ikut cara Rasulullah SAW bersama suami tersayang Zahidi Rahman.. dalam banyak2 bab dalam buku ni, tajuk Saat paling tepat menasihati anak-anak lah yg paling saya teruja & mengharukan sebab rupa-rupanya abah saya minhat, juga sering amalkan sepanjang didik saya & adik beradik sejak kecil (hingga kini)...

Ada 3 waktu utama dalam menasihati anak yang diterapkan Rasulullah saw:

1. Dalam perjalanan
Hadis riwayat al-Hakim dari Ibnu Abbas r.a yg bermaksud:
“Nabi saw diberi hadiah seekor bighal oleh Kisra. Baginda menungganginya dengan tali kekang dari serabut. Baginda membawaku di belakangku. Kemudian baginda berjalan. Tidak berapa lama, baginda menoleh dan memanggil “hai anak kecil.” Jawabku, “labbaika, wahai Rasululllah.” Baginda bersabda, “jagalah agama Allah, nescaya Dia menjagamu…”

Pengajaran hadis:
ketika kita dalam perjalanan membawa anak-anak adalah saat terbaik untuk menasihat, menegur kesalahan anak-anak sebab waktu tu anak-anak kebiasaannya dalam keadaan gembira dan hati terbuka untuk menerima sebarang teguran membina dari ibubapa khasnya.. 

**** pengalaman saya setiap kali bermusafir bersama keluarga(tak kira manapun destinasi dituju utk tujuan melancong, shopping, berkebun, ziarah sedara mara dll), abah pasti akan penuhkan aktiviti sepanjang dalam perjalanan dengan bersembang, bercerita kisah-kisah menarik dan ada unsur suri tauladan bersama anak2(biasanya abah yang jadi pencerita), mak & abah akan mainkan peranan penting masa dalam kereta untuk mulakan perkongsian masalah kami adik beradik dan berbincang, berkongsi pendapat utk menyelesaikan masalah bersama.. masa ni lah biasanya abah akan selitkan nasihat & teguran yg membina pada kami anak2 (sob3 sedey teringat) sehinggalah sampai ke destinasi yg dituju..

2. Waktu makan 
Hadis riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim dari Umar bin Abi Salamah r.a yang bermaksud:
“aku masih kecil ketika berada dalam pengawasan Rasulullah SAW. Tanganku bergerak ke sana ke mari di hadapan makanan. Lalu sabda Baginda SAW, hai anak kecil, ucapkanlah basmalah, makanlah dengan tangan kanan dan makanlah apa yang ada dihadapanmu.. sejak itu, begitulah caraku makan.”

Pengajaran hadis:
Waktu makan adalah antara waktu yang anak-anak paling agresif dan akan menunjukkan sifat & watak aslinya sehinggakan kadang-kadang sanggup berperilaku buruk dan melanggar adab sopan ketika makan. Jika ibu bapa tidak duduk makan bersama, tidak menegur, tidak membetulkan kesalahan anak-anak, akan menyebabkan anak-anak terus menerus melakukan kesalahan. Selain itu, saat makan adalah peluang terbaik (waktu berkualiti) bagi ibu bapa untuk meluangkan waktu bersama-sama anak-anak. 

**** makan bersama keluarga adalah aktiviti yang paling digemari abah. Setiap kali kami adik beradik berkumpul (masa cuti sekolah/hari minggu), abah pasti akan ajak kami ‘makan besar’ (direstoran, bbq sate depan umah dll). Abah lagi suka kalo sedara mara, adik beradik mak abah kumpul & makan besar bersama (biasanya hari raya, family day, melawat umah sanak sedara).. masa tu lah, biasanya abah akan selitkan sikit nasihat & teguran kpd kami semua.. huhu.. xsabar nk gathering bbq sate n menu sodap2 bersama keluarga n sanak saudara sempena nk masuk bulan ramadhan tahun ni..

3. Ketika sakit
Hadis riwayat Bukhari dari Anas r.a yang bermaksud:
“Seorang anak Yahudi yang menjadi pelayan Nabi SAW sakit. Baginda SAW datang menjenguknya. Baginda duduk di dekat kepalanya dan bersabda kepadanya, ‘masuk Islamlah engkau’. Dia meliaht ke arah bapanya yang saat itu berada di sana. Si bapa berkata, ‘turutilah Au Qasim’. Maka, dia pun masuk Islam. Nabi SAW pergi sambil berdoa, ‘segala puji bagi Allah yang telah menyelamatkannya dari api neraka’.

Pengajaran hadis:
Sakit adalah nikmat yang Allah SWT beri kepada manusia hingga mampu melembut dan melunakkan hati orang dewasa yang keras, apatah lagi hati anak-anak kecil. Sakit memiliki 2 kelebihan iaitu. Pertama, fitrah kanak-kanak yang suci bersih dan kedua, sifat kelembutan hati dan jiwa. justeru, gunakan waktu anak sakit sebagai peluang untuk mendekati, menegur dan menasihati secara lembut akan kesalahan mereka. 

***** waktu sakit juga adalah waktu kebiasaan abah menasihati kami anak-anak (nasihati dengan cara lembut)serta mengingatkan kami tentang sakit adalah kaffarah dosa.. nasihat & kata-kata membina dari abah & mak serta usaha (yg xkenal erti putus asa) mencari ubat sehingga sembuh penyakit menjadikan kami adik beradik lebih tabah dan sabar dengan ujian Allah SWT...

## terima kasih xterhingga buat abah minhat & mak aisyah.. we all luv u till jannah..

Reading with children

Assalamualaikum..

InsyaAllah, today I would like to share about how to develop a love of books and enthusiasm for promoting children reading skills to enable them to gain knowledge and enjoyment from reading.

1. Show your child that books are important. Have a good selection of books that you keep in a special place, perhaps in a special box, on a book shelf or in a special drawer. This way children will know where to access books and it will show them that you value stories.
   
2. Encourage reading wherever you are. There are always opportunities to talk about reading whether you are in the home, at the shops or going for walk. Talk about the sounds and words you see around you and ask your child to find words and sounds in labels, street signs, bus stops etc.
3. Have sound and words displayed in your house. This could be on the fridge, in your child's bedroom, on the living room door or on any surface. Your child will naturally interact with them and you can talk about them and test your child regularly.
4. Ask questions. If you have shared a book together, ask your child questions about the story such as "why did that character do that?" "how is that character feeling?" or "what happens next?".
5. Sensitively correct children. If your child is trying to read and gets a word wrong, saying something like "wow! that was a good try but it actually says...." is much more positive than saying "no, that's wrong". Children need encouragement.
6. Little and often. It only takes a few minutes a day to practice reading and phonics. Find a time everyday that suits your routine. After bath time perhaps, after tea or just before bed. Have plenty of different books available as well as lots of paper, pens, chalkboards, whiteboards to quickly practice with.
7. Set aside some time and find somewhere quiet without any distractions. Turn off the TV/radio/computer.
8. Ask your child to choose a book. Sharing books they have chosen shows you care what they think and that their opinion matters and they are more likely to engage with the book. 
9. Sit close together. Encourage your child to hold the book themselves and/or turn the pages.
10. Point to the pictures if there are illustrations and relate them to something your child knows. Ask them to describe the characters and relate them or situation or what will happen next. Encourage them to tell you the story by looking at the pictures.
11. Encourage your child to talk about  the book. Talking about the characters and their dilemmas helps children understand relationships and is an excellent way for you to get to know each other or discuss difficult issues. Give your child plenty of time to respond. Ask them what will happen next, how a character might be feeling or how the book makes them feel.
    
12. Don't be afraid to use funny voices. Children love this!!
13. And lastly and above all - make it fun! It doesn't matter how you read with a child, as long as you both enjoy the time together.

All the best!!!

Simple early learning at home..

Assalamualaikum..

InsyaAllah, today i would like to share a little knowledge about home learning where I got from my daughters' nursery workshop for parents. Here are some fun activities to help our child's learning at home:

1. Count the steps when you go up or downstairs... how many stairs altogether?
   
2. Count the pegs on the washing line.. how many did you count?
   
3.  Talk about numbers in and around the house... what is your house number?
   
4. Watch the night sky! what did you see? draw a picture of moon and stars!!
   
5. Read a book about night time animals!!
   

All the best and have fun with your child!! Ilal liqa'..

My Tajweed Class..

Alhamdulillah, today my tajweed class at the Muslim Welfare House of Sheffield (it is a beautiful masjid)was end. Jazakumullahu khairan kathira sis Bayan for teaching me and my lovely friends. She is a dedicated and patient teacher. She inspired me, she was memorised the 30 juzk from the Quran in 4 months!!! During the lesson, I learnt so many things about tajweed aspecially in term of makharij al-huruf, the rules of harfu al-Raa, hukm lafz al-Jalalah and so on.. Thanks to Allah SWT for giving me lovely friends; kak Lucy, Aini Haziqa from Malaysia and others friends from the other countries. They were very nice, kind and helpful.. 

I really enjoyed the class eventhough there were so many challenges for me as a preggy mommy because the masjid is too far from my home and I have to take a bas early in the morning during the winter season.. Alhamdulillah my dear husband was really concerned and helpfull, sometimes he accompanied me and take care of our babies (Umai & Ahmad) during the class.. 

Thank you Allah for giving me this worth chance..

May Allah gave us barakah and hikmah from the little 'ilm..

*** My lovely classmates and teacher (sis Bayan, 2nd from the right)***